“To me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this every day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day. Number two is think. You should spend some time in thought. And number three is, you should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or joy. But think about it. If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that’s a full day. That’s a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you’re going to have something special.”
In college, I was, in part, a psychology major. One of my favorite classes was simply titled Personality. Obviously we studied personalities but we also studied theories that describe them and how to affectively negotiate the diverse personalities that make up mankind.
I had the opportunity to hear a great speaker named Paul David Trip speak this weekend. He made a strong point that no one talks more to you than yourself therefore you are most responsible for what you’re being told. He suggests that your inner dialogue is most profound in convincing you of reality. Thinking through this and what I know about personality I was stuck with this question, If I am the person I talk to the most then how do I avoid feeding into negative aspects of my personality (lying to myself) and make affective changes to my thoughts and actions? How do I cause growth instead of starting fires? Continue reading
The amount of (manly) life lessons to learn from being a Young Life leader is seemingly endless.
There is a lot to learn about leading people, loving others, having conversations, being vulnerable, organizing events, working in teams, and sacrifice.
Some of these lessons are learned quickly, but most take weeks, months, or even years.
Some of these lessons only apply to leading Young Life, but most apply to all areas of life.
One of the many lessons I have learned from the last 4 years is to show up.
My alma mater, the University of Missouri, joined the SEC this year. Over the weekend I had the honor of attending their first ever conference game against the Georgia Bulldogs. Ten hours before the game started thousands of people began tailgating and anticipating their team taking the field. People proudly wore their team colors, chant their team’s cheers and sang their fight song. While the game didn’t turn out to my liking, one thing that stood out was how passionate all 70,000+ people were at the game.
Passion was driving people to invest time and money to go watch a team they loved play despite the possibility of losing. All things invested could be for naught in a loss but in case of a win none of that matters. How often in our lives do we set our passions aside because pursuing them involves the potential of losing?
I’m incredibly lucky to work with a team of leaders who regularly face losing in order to pursue their passion. They risk embarrassment, rejection, time with their families and friends, money and countless other things all because they are passionate. There are lots of rough days but they are all validated when the moments in life they work for come to fruition.
- What in life are you passionate about that you aren’t pursuing because you might lose?
- Is your potential loss greater than what you’re losing by not pursing your passion?
I spend a lot of time and energy looking towards the future. I want things to be the best that they can be: my future friendships, my future marriage, my future job, my future family, my future ministry, etc…
I also value giving time to the things that are right in front of me. I want to be present in the relationships I have now. I want to invest in the things that I am doing today in hope that they will lead to a better future.
I live in a constant struggle of finding the balance of here and there.
For the last two weeks I have been thinking about one simple statement: “I’m not there yet.” I look at all the older, more dynamic, more mature, more successful people around me and think, “I’m not there yet.” I accept this statement as true and allow it to steal my ambition and my joy. I am guilty of putting an ambiguous “there” on a pedestal and telling myself I have to reach it.
I used to think whimsy was an ugly word used to describe bad decisions made without thinking.
Now I know whimsy can be an attractive (and manly) word used to describe spontaneous and playful decisions which lead to living life to the full.
What whimsy means to me is a combination of the “do” part of faith along with doing something worth doing. -Bob Goff
“He then said, “God’s word: Dig ditches all over this valley. Here’s what will happen—you won’t hear the wind, you won’t see the rain, but this valley is going to fill up with water and your army and your animals will drink their fill. This is easy for God to do…” -2 Kings 3:16-18
For the last year the Kansas City North Younglife team has adopted a term that has changed how we do ministry: Digging Ditches.
As a team of leaders we consistently asked each other how we are digging ditches in hope that God will do the work and fill them. We changed our focus from trying to produce change. We stopped measuring our ministry by numbers. We stopped relying on our own strengths. We moved past our own standards.
Instead, we chose to trust that if we dig ditches God will bring the rain. We chose to focus on what we can control. For a whole year we invested in the lives of high school students. We chose to dig ditches.